Thursday, February 11, 2010

This New Road

"One of the things so astonishing and costly about losing a loved one is that, while the sun continues to rise and set, newspapers continue to be delivered, traffic lights still change from red to green and back again, our whole life is turned around, turned upside down.

Is it any wonder we feel disoriented, confused? yet the people we pass on the street are going about their business as though no one's world has been shaken to the core, as though the earth has not opened and swallowed us up, dropped us into a world of insecurity and change.

It will take us time to learn to walk this new road. Time, and a lot of help, so we don't stumble and fall irretrievably. Those who have had their own experiences of loss will probably be our most helpful guides - knowing when to say the right word, when to be silent and walk beside us, when to reach out and take our hand. In time, we will be helpers for others.

I have entered a new country. I will be patient with myself. I will look for companions of the way."

Healing after Loss - Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman

Today my heart is heavy...another family is just starting down this new road and will bury their son today. This is a special family to me, who were in Toronto hospital while we were there, and helped make my time there so much more bearable. I got a kick out of how Ethan loved to compare tubes and meds with Noah. My thoughts are prayers are with you today and in the days ahead.

Another beautiful spirit gone so soon...another backpack left at the pearly gates...

http://www2.caringbridge.org/canada/ethanjakob/index.htm

8 comments:

nicole said...

Praying for you today, as all days. Praying that I can be the kind of friend that you need.

Maroo said...

Nichole - I am so glad for an update from you guys.

Still praying for you every day!!!

I said a prayer for Ethan's family today, too.

We love you guys.

Jules and Danny said...

Nichole, I am so sorry for you and this family new to grief. I will add them to my prayers.

Anonymous said...

Praying for you today, as we do everyday. We have been sharing Noah's life with many here, and it makes me miss him more. Praying for Ethan's family today. Love you mom

Kim said...

Prayers for Ethan's family, and yours. I'm sure that your gentle spirit will be a reassurance to Ethan's family as they navigate their new world without their son.

Anonymous said...

Oh Nichole...you know of our dear friends Ethan and Karen...Thank you so much for sharing their story on Noah's site.

I am glad you are there for her during this time.

We will be at GKTW on Wed to volunteer and I would love to know Noah's wish star #...if you want, you can email at Crispyfunk@aol.com or find me under facebook as Christine Lackey...and of course on the Disboards too.

Christine and Jakers

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/jakob.ashton

Anonymous said...

I am praying for you and this other family today.
Although I do not know you, I see that you are from Manitoba.
I am also from Manitoba. Thank-you for being honest and sharing your journey with many readers.

If you would like to check out my blog I would love to have you.

http://mymontessorihomeblog.blogspot.com

hilda said...

Our prayers to you and to this family. You will SO be able to understand what they are feeling right now. I know they will be glad to hear from you and may God give you the words to encourage them. Love, Auntie Hilda